I love her but she has a boyfriend k, there is a girl that im completly in love with, but she has a boyfriend, im completley in love with her and were best frineds. you can see how that makes it difficult. but she has found out that i like her. i am now talking to my ex-girlfriend and have discovered that i like her. im having to choose, i know that i want to go off with my ex who likes me, but i cant tear myself away from my best friend. the trouble is my best frind gets very jelouse about any other boy mate having a girlfriend, i know this is selfish of her, but the last time this happened with the same two people my best friend told me to go away. so i had to make a choice and i chose my best friend. now im in love with my best friend and i have a chance with someelse but i know that one day her and her boyfrind will break up and i will have missed a chance, but i just keep waitng because my child hood is wasting away. The bottom line is, how do i tear my self away from my best friend who im in love with but who, if i have a relshonship with someelse, will hate me. i just want to be happy and at the moemnt im just depressed about seeing her and her boyfriend and not knowing what to do. i know i need to get over my best friend, but i cant. and if i do it will be so difficult because ive adapted my life to be woth my best friend and it will just ruin my whoel life style. sorry if this is too long.I looked into eyes so very blue,Not knowing how to actI barely looked at you.Going over that day in my headI thought back to the little things you did,The kind of shirt I said I liked,When a simple shirt would do.Kind words were spoken,It was all layed out in the open,You even made me look at you.So I would know the words were true,Well some time has passed,And I'm so glad I have you,I thank God for,The first day I met youSince the first time I met you,I couldn't seem to forget you.And lately I seem to find, That you're always on my mind.I feel so happy around you,And I thank God that I found you.At first I thought of you as a really good friend,But I realized that my feelings there didn't end.I was so afraid to tell you, Cos I didnt know what youd do.Then I heard that you felt the same way,And those words were so easy to say.Oh, when I see you smile,It makes my life worth while.And since the very start, You have been in my heart.When my lifes skies are dark and gray,You chase all those storm clouds away.I've never felt this way before,And honestly that is for sure.I'm so glad that we did meet,For now my life is complete.You're what they meant,The girl I'm hot for has a boyfriend who doesn't fulfill her. She says she loves me, but won't leave him for me. I keep waiting, but it only seems like they are getting closer. Yet she says she is unhappy with him. When will she leave him for me? Answer: The answer is NEVER. The way you have things set up now, she will never leave him for you. This is a classic male dilemma. She says she wants a guy like you, but, somehow, she stays (and gives sex to!) the guy who she claims to not like. You don't like this situation. Why would you? You're problem is that you think that because you are unhappy, and because she is unfulfilled, it means that she will inevitably leave him and go out with you, instead. You tell yourself that all you have to do is wait, and the situation will eventually cut your way. But it doesn't--in fact, the more time you spend with her, the more it seems like she is committed to her boyfriend. The problem is this: The way you have things set up now, she is getting everything she wants, and has no incentive to change anything. She says she is unfulfilled by her boyfriend, but the fact that she stays with him belies that she in fact DOES get something out of it. It fulfills some subconscious need of hers that you will probably never understand. The truth is, you are unhappy with this situation, but she is just fine. She can have hot sex with her boyfriend, then complain to you about how unfulfilled she is, and you give her love and support unconditionally. She has everything she wants, and she will NOT leave him for you, as long as this is true. If you want this to change, you have to take some risks yourself. Here are the risks you have to start taking, today, if you want to turn this situation around: Pursue other women. If you want to turn her into a lover, it is crucial beyond words that she not be your one-and-only-hope for sex. You must be pursuing other women, flirting with other women, romancing other women and being sexual with other women. It will give you a sense of patience with your "friend," remove any sense of desperation you may be feeling around her and make you less available-and thus more attractive-to her. Act like a lover, not like a female friend. Pop quiz, hotshot: what does a man who becomes a woman's friend do differently with her than another woman would? Answer: nothing. Moral: if you want a woman to see you as a sexual man, rather than basically as an ugly woman, then you must act differently than another woman would. This is true for women you are just meeting as well as for women who have known you for a while and already think of you as a friend. Bottom line: you must flirt with her, weird as it may feel to you the first time you do it. You must flirt. Start doing all the flirting moves. You must ask, "What's the story behind that?" You must practice Situational Flirting and the Goodbye Introduction. You must conduct Romantic Conversations and Deepening Conversations. When you start incorporating these behaviors into your life, women will not wonder whether you are a wimpy friend or a potential lover. You'll be a potential lover every time-or she'll get rid of you.